Members of the Church have always experienced disagreements, and this will continue as long as Christians come together from diverse races, cultures, and backgrounds. This diversity often leads to conflict and disunity. For this reason, the Apostle Paul urges Christians to accept one another despite strong differences.
Some of these disagreements are rooted in doctrinal issues, prompting Jude to write, “Contend for the faith that was once for all delivered to the saints” (Jude 3). However, most disagreements arise from matters of personal opinion. In Romans 14, Paul provides guidance on how Christians should handle disagreements on non-doctrinal issues. As brothers and sisters in Christ, we must learn to accept each other’s differing opinions without compromising essential doctrine. So, how can we maintain unity even in disagreement?
First, we need to distinguish between matters of doctrine and matters of opinion. Even in doctrinal disagreements, Romans 14 offers principles that can guide us in handling disagreements in a loving and respectful manner. Christians are called to act in ways that build each other up, not tear each other down (Rom 14:19).
Second, we must practice patience and compassion, especially toward those who may be spiritually weaker. They may not have the same level of understanding as more mature Christians. The spiritually strong are called to walk in love with the weaker ones (Rom 14:15). If we truly love our brethren, we will show them respect and avoid being judgmental (Rom 14:10). We should always interpret their words and actions in the most charitable way, assuming they are as sincere in their desire to follow God’s will as we are.
Third, we should always care for and be concerned about our brethren (Rom 14:20-21). We are not isolated individuals; our actions affect others (Rom 14:7). In our pursuit of peace and mutual edification, we should never contribute to division within the church or cause it to be spoken of in a negative light (Rom 14:16).
It’s essential that we strive to accept those who disagree with us. While we must “watch out” for and “avoid” those who cause division or lead others astray from sound doctrine (Rom 16:17), we should be hesitant to sever fellowship over disagreements. If we must distance ourselves from a brother due to doctrinal error, it should be done with great sorrow and regret.